Thursday, 28 April 2016

The Wisdom of the Serpent

Many years ago I read the book The Art of Leadership by Dag Heward Mills. Some things I learnt from that book have stayed with me for years. One of them is what I will be sharing here.

Most humans hate snakes. I would do anything to kill any snake I see before asking whether it was a venomous snake or not. Better safe than sorry. But why then does the bible say we should be wise as serpents? A creature so hated by man.

Despite the hatred man has for snakes, snakes still thrive because they’ve learnt the art of moving without being noticed. They’ve learnt the art of not attracting attention to themselves and they usually reside in places that are difficult for man to access.

We are admonished to learn this wisdom from the snake. There is a time for everything under the sun. Something done before its time may yield an undesired result. People rejoice when a married woman gets pregnant but are not happy when a teenage girl in secondary school gets pregnant. The difference was time.

In the journey to success and achieving our dreams many of us are not patient with ourselves. We don’t want to go through the process, especially the very talented ones. The love for money, fame, power, etc. has made a lot of people to go shipwreck and many there are that will yet experience shipwrecks in their journey.

Attracting something to yourself before the time is not wise. Fully ripe and almost ripe are not the same. Wisdom is in knowing what to do per time; Knowing what battles to fight because it is not all battles that you are mature enough to fight. That is why one should not attract undue attention to themselves which could mean attracting conflicts that you are not yet fully developed to handle.

Like Dag Heward-Mills wrote, If you kick a dog when it is a few days old, it may die, but try kicking a fully grown Doberman or Alsatian dog, you may die. The difference is in development.

There are many half-baked people around. Be patient with yourself. Give yourself time to grow. When you go through the process you become well rounded. The appropriate challenges are what come to you to help you grow.

In one of my articles, Living in Crazy-land, I wrote that to develop a muscle you need a little more load than normal but placing too much load on the muscle will break it.

As I journey through life I come across too many young people that are in a hurry to make it (and please don’t ask me what my definition of “young” is as you might be offended).  They won’t sit down to learn from those above them, around them, and below them. Such people are on a self-destruct mode.

Saying “No” to good things can sometimes be the best decision of your life. Some people will innocently bring offers to you that will lead to your downfall. Not because that was their intention but because you accepted an offer that you were not mature enough to handle.

We live in a world where we desire the title more than the function. But titles mean nothing without function. That is why traditional rulers are gradually losing their respect among the people. Because being called ‘Chief’ means nothing if there is no function attached. What value do you add to those around you? True success is one where your function supersedes your title.

That means your desire to heal people must be stronger than your desire to be called a Doctor. Your desire to teach must be stronger than your desire to be called a teacher. Your desire to sing must be greater than your desire to be called a singer. Your desire to give must be greater than your desire to be called a philanthropist. Having this paradigm will help you in responding to the noise around you. You are not competing with anybody.

When you are truly in love with the process instead of the destination, it gives you the strength to endure the process. The growth process is not rosy all through. Pain is also a part of the growth process. That is why it is important to understand personal leadership principles because they will help you with the right perspective to life.

The wisdom of the serpent is to remain hidden and grow until the right time to be seen comes. Just remember, “Wisdom does not always come with age, sometimes age comes alone.” –John Maxwell.


I love you.

Original article by:
Mute Efe.

Wednesday, 27 April 2016

THE TRUTH ABOUT LOVE

Going by 1 Corinthians 13:4, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails".

Very true words; But please hear this, 'DON'T EVER MIX THINGS UP'.

The more applicable truth is, Love is jealous and possessive. Though Love accommodates, yet it does not suffer fools. Love needs to be understood, and not to be planned, deceived or trapped by all/any means.
The needs, likes and dislikes of a friend or partner defines the pathway and solidity of a love life; if the pathway is infringed on, then love wobbles. In other words, Love is only solid when you embrace, uphold and stick to the views, needs, likes and dislikes of your partner. "You modify these needs, views or plan, then you lose love". BUT AS ALWAYS, WOMEN AND MEN NEVER LISTEN NOR LEARN.... until they find out the hard way.
So dear friends, Human Love is not always patient or kind. Patience and Kindness are the qualities of God..... not men. We as mortals can only try to emulate God.

Be Wise!!!

Monday, 25 April 2016

OLD DOGSssss

One day an old German Shepherd starts chasing rabbits and before long, discovers that he's lost. Wandering about, he notices a panther heading rapidly in his direction with the intention of having lunch.

The old German Shepherd thinks, "Oh, oh! I'm in deep trouble now!"

Noticing some bones on the ground close by, he immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the approaching cat. Just as the panther is about to leap, the old German Shepherd exclaims loudly, "Boy, that was one delicious panther! I wonder, if there are any more around here?"

Hearing this, the young panther halts his attack in mid-strike, a look of terror comes over him and he slinks away into the trees.

"Whew!", says the panther, "That was close! That old German Shepherd nearly had me!"

Meanwhile, a squirrel who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree, figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the panther. So, off he goes.

The squirrel soon catches up with the panther, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the panther.

The young panther is furious at being made a fool of and says, "Here, squirrel, hop on my back and see what's going to happen to that conniving canine!"

Now, the old German Shepherd sees the panther coming with the squirrel on his back and thinks, "What am I going to do now?", but instead of running, the dog sits down with his back to his attackers, pretending he hasn't seen them yet, and just when they get close enough to hear, the old German Shepherd says...

"Where's that squirrel? I sent him off an hour ago to bring me another panther!"

Moral of this story...

Don't mess with the old dogs... Age and skill will always overcome youth and treachery! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.

Friday, 22 April 2016

The Pain of Victory

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

― Theodore Roosevelt